Preparing for University life

Heading off to university is a major life event. You may feel excited about the new opportunities that await you, yet it's completely normal to also feel nervous or scared. The changes ahead can feel daunting, and it's common to have a range of emotions as you approach this new chapter.

This article explores the challenges you might encounter before starting university and offers practical tips to help you manage the transition.

The Emotional Journey of Starting University

The thought of starting university can stir up a mix of emotions. Excitement, nervousness, sadness, and fear are all common feelings. As humans, we often find comfort in routine and familiarity, so the anticipation of change can feel unsettling.

Going to university will likely push you outside your comfort zone. While this may feel daunting, it’s also where we often experience the most growth. However, change can often feel overwhelming or confusing when in the midst of it.

Common Concerns for New Students

Some of the common worries that prospective students have can include:

• Some of the typical worries students face include:

  • Academic pressure: Wondering how challenging the coursework will be.

  • Social anxiety: Concerns about fitting in and making new friends.

  • Financial worries: Managing money and student loans.

  • Homesickness: Missing home and familiar surroundings.

  • Practical tasks: Learning how to handle everyday responsibilities like cooking, laundry, and managing your time.

For International Students

If you're coming to the UK to study, you may face additional challenges, such as:

• Cultural differences: Adjusting to a new country’s customs and expectations.

• Language barriers: Navigating daily life in a non-native language.

• Loneliness: Feeling isolated and far from home.

• Administrative tasks: Sorting out visas, travel, and accommodation.

Tips for Easing the Transition to University

While it’s impossible to plan for everything, there are steps you can take to make your transition to university smoother.

Reflect on What You Already Know

Take time to review what you already know about:

• Your course content and modules for the first term.

• The university's facilities like libraries, lecture halls, and sports centres.

• Any clubs or societies that interest you.

• The local area: Are there cafes, parks, or shops that excite you?

Shifting your focus to the exciting aspects of university life may help alleviate some anxiety.

Seek Answers to Your Concerns

If there are specific worries on your mind, try to gather as much information as possible beforehand. Make a list of your uncertainties and do some research.

Sources of useful information include:

• Social media: TikTok, Instagram, or YouTube videos created by other students.

• University websites: For details on academic resources and student services.

• Student Union websites: Providing information on student life, events, and where to seek advice.

• Tourism sites and online maps: Familiarise yourself with the area.

• Contacting the university: Directly ask questions about accommodation, academics, or student support.

Starting University as an International Student

Many universities have events and societies specifically for international students, which can be a great way to connect with others experiencing similar challenges. These societies often have social media groups you can join before arriving, giving you a head start in meeting people.

You may also find the following websites contain useful information:

• The UK Council for International Student Affairs (UKCISA) contains a wealth of information on finances, visas, mental health, and more.

• If you’re coming to study at Durham University they have a dedicated page for providing information on what to expect when you arrive.

Starting University as a Disabled Student

Many students attend University with a disability. However, it often brings with it additional challenges to being a student. It is important that you are able to access the support you need so you are able to get the most from your studies and time at University. Sometimes people are not aware they may qualify for help. Disability covers a wide range of issues. Some of these include:

• Mental health issues like anxiety or depression;

• Neurodiversity such as ADHD, Dyslexia or Autism;

• Long-term health conditions like Chrone’s or HIV;

• Physical disabilities affecting mobility;

• Sensory impairments like visual or hearing difficulties.

If you have a long-term condition that impacts your day-to-day life and/or your studies you may be able to access additional financial, practical and/or emotional support. Some suggestions for additional help include:

You may be eligible for extra support, including:

• Accommodation requirements: Let your institution know in advance if you need additional support in place like an ensuite or a ground-floor room;

• Disabled Student Allowance (DSA): Financial assistance for specialist equipment, transport costs, or assistance like a sign language interpreter.

• University disability services: Register with them before you arrive or at any time during your studies. Disability services can create an individual plan to help with any adjustments or support you may need during your time at University.

• AccessAble: A website and app offering detailed guides on the accessibility of buildings, including universities, cinemas, and restaurants.

Connect with other Prospective Students

Many universities have social media groups for incoming students, which can be a great way to connect before you arrive. Engaging with others can help you feel more a part of the university community.

Set Realistic Expectations

You might feel pressure to be as enthusiastic as your friends about starting university. However, it's okay to feel apprehensive or even scared. It’s a huge life change, and most students - whether they show it or not - are likely feeling some nerves.

Freshers’ week

Freshers' Week offers a chance to settle in, get to know the university, and meet other students. The shared experience of being new can foster connections and create a sense of camaraderie. The majority of Freshers will be looking to make new connections to help them find their feet over this period.

If the prospect of meeting new people feels daunting, focus on connecting with one or two people rather than trying to meet everyone. Remember, many others are likely feeling the same way, so even a simple smile or "hello" can go a long way in breaking the ice.

Fresher’s week activities are often designed to help ease the meeting of others and joining societies can be a great way to meet like-minded people.

Leaving Home

The emotions of leaving home

Leaving home can evoke many emotions, especially if you are moving to a new city or country. You may feel excited about the independence it brings or apprehensive about leaving behind family and familiar places.

Remind yourself, that you can return home for visits, or stay connected through phone calls or video chats.

You might find it helpful to write down the potential positives of moving away. This could include more independence, discovering new places, and learning more about the subject you’ve chosen to study.

Homesickness

Homesickness is a common experience and may arise before you leave, shortly after arriving, or even a few months in. It often takes time to establish a new routine, build solid friendships, and for your new surroundings to feel familiar.

Tips for managing homesickness can include, bringing comfort items from home, make time for hobbies, or joining societies to meet like-minded people.

Homesickness can range from mild to distressing. It often eases as individuals settle into their new lives, but for others, it can linger. If it does become an issue you might want to speak to someone you trust, your University support team or a therapist.

Practical Preparations

There are various practical matters that you can sort out that might help your transition into university easier.

Finances

Financial issues can be a major cause of stress and worry. Here are some tips for managing your money:

• Student Finance: Make sure you meet deadlines and complete any required paperwork if you applying for student loans;

• Create a budget: Keep track of your income and outgoings to avoid overspending.

• Open a student bank account: Many banks offer special perks for students.

• Sort out insurance: Check if your belongings need separate coverage for theft or damage.

• Hardship help: If you find yourself in financial difficulty it’s important to get help. Try speaking to your university to see if they have any grants or funds you can access. The Citizens Advice and Step Change both offer free debt advice.

• Disability student allowance: If you are a student with a learning difficulty, health problem or disability you might want to consider putting in an application for DSA.

Packing for University

Find out what is already provided in your accommodation, so you don’t overpack or forget essentials. Small personal items like favourite blankets, photos, or decorations can make your new room feel more like home.

Cooking Skills

If you’re staying in self-catered accommodation, learning to cook simple meals before you go can save you from stress. Consider practicing at home or taking a short course over the summer.

Student Mental Health

University can be both rewarding and challenging. If you're struggling, don’t hesitate to seek help. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist, and take advantage of the resources your university offers, such as:

• Student support services.

• Disability support.

• University counselling services.

• A mental health support line like Nightline or Samaritans.
  

Final Thoughts

Starting university is a significant step, and it's completely normal to feel nervous. But with time, you’ll build a new routine and the unfamiliar will become familiar.

I wish you all the best as you begin your journey into Student life. I hope you find the experience both academically and personally rewarding.

If you're finding the idea of university overwhelming, or if challenges arise during your time there, counselling may be able to provide you with invaluable support. I provided face-to-face therapy in Durham and online sessions across the UK for students over 18.

Don’t hesitate to contact me if you have any questions about counselling, concerns about starting therapy or you want to book an appointment.